Today, I’m outing myself. I am a commitment–phobe. That might seem strange to you because I, from the outside looking in, certainly wouldn’t think that I’d be a commitment-phobe, but lo and behold, it’s true. For years I’ve struggled with not wanting to be tied down…to anything. Which is all the more perplexing considering my lifelong desires of being married and the whole nine years (but that’s a whole other blog). For what seems like forever I’ve felt terrified and trapped by truly the tiniest of commitments, from deciding a nail polish color, to making plans on a Friday night, and even being totally paralyzed about booking trips and flights.
Now, I can confidently say that I am in recovery of my commitment-phobia. It creeps in from time to time, but I’ve found tools and tricks to battle it. What’s super interesting as I write this blog all about commitment-phobia is that in the past week I’ve made two MAJOR commitments; one being that for seven days, I will write one blog a day for my site (get excited, people!). And second, I have committed to embark on a transformational journey of health and wellness by participating and being a mentor in a 6-week cleanse program (yep, SIX weeks; hello commitment!)*
There was a time where I would have NEVER considered doing these things, and I’m here to tell you, though daunting as they may be, they make me feel alive and shockingly free, and dare I say, excited.
Long story short, commitment is great, guys. If you, too are a commitment-phobe, and are longing to kick the habit, here are some gems of wisdom that always come to my mind when the phobia starts to crawl it’s way back into my psyche.
- Feel the fear and do it anyway. As long as you’re intuition is in check, and you’re being safe (physically, mentally, and emotionally), what’s the worst that could happen. Listen to Nike, and just do it!
- You always have a choice. You make a bad commitment and you want out, guess what? You can get out. We ALWAYS have a choice. Hello, freedom!
- Commitment and structure can be a good thing—it you make it joyful. When you say yes and commit to things that truly bring you joy, you create more space for even more wonderful things. How amazing is that?!
- Your ego-mind wants you to stay in commitment-phobia world, so tell it to back off. So many times our ego mind keeps us stuck in habits that aren’t great for us. Recognize it, and say, no thanks.
- Take it one day at a time. This one may be cliché, but goodness it’s true, especially in commitment world. Don’t future trip, stay in the present moment, it’s all-good!
*If you want to join me in saying yest to commitment and to a 6-week transformational cleanse, shoot me an email and I’d be more than happy to sign you up! You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.