Episode 31: Becoming Cycle Breakers

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TW: This episode discusses the topics of sexual abuse, addiction, and family dysfunction. 

This week, Barb and Michelle discuss the topic of cycle breaking, what it means to become a cycle breaker, and how we can all start to identify toxic family patterns we want to end. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Cycle breaking – the concept of identifying negative, toxic, dysfunctional family patterns that are passed down from generation to generation. Cultivating the awareness about it and making conscientious changes to not pass this on to further generations.

Steps to Becoming a Cycle Breaker:

• Have awareness. Identifying the patterns or traits you would like to change.
• Have an outlet to discuss or understand the dynamics
• Make the decision that you are not going to carry this. Open yourself up to the healing process
• Consciously deciding to make new patterns while understanding you are not perfect.

Helpful Ways to Choose New Patterns:

1. Set boundaries
2. Allow yourself to remove the unhealthy people in your life.
3. Attend therapy or a support group.
4. Show yourself the kindness and support that you needed as a child.
5. Learn healthy coping strategies for managing big emotions and triggers.
6. For parents, don’t play favorites or pitting children against each other.
7. Release unrealistic expectations for yourself and others.
8. Learn to talk about your feelings and your needs without apologizing.

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• Dr. Murray Bowen Family Systems Theory
• University of Illinois Counseling Center
• It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover
• Co-Dependent No More by Melody Beattie
• Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
• Instagram Reel on Cycle Breaking

If you are anyone you know has been a victim of any kind of sexual assault  help is available. https://www.rainn.org/resources